I get easily frustrated. Not angry. frustrated.
I’m not sure there is a difference, but I feel better saying frustrated.
The girl doesn’t make the dog follow the rules. Frustrated.
The girl’s mess. Frustrated.
I mess up a recipe. Frustrated.
The dog doesn’t listen(or gets into something, or pees in the house). Frustrated.
Very little things really.
Why? IDK. Genetics? Stress? Who knows.
How do I fix it? I’m trying acceptance.
I try to notice when I’m getting frustrated.
Beyond that… ???
Often I will take a deep breath and attempt to talk to my girl in normal voice(as opposed to frustrated voice).
Or I will take a deep breath and focus on my frustration instead of the dog.
I have been trying NOT to give the dog a command until I’m calm. Cause I’ll get even more angry if dog doesn’t listen. I’m calm(ish), I give command, she obeys(slowly) I feel better.
Much better than not being calm and smacking her out of frustration. Yes I hit my dog. Yes I feel bad. I told you I wasn’t perfect.
Noticing and breathing are two band-aids for my frustration. I think I have been less frustrated lately.
Band-aids come off.
What’s the long-term fix?
My idea: Talk to the girl while I’m not frustrated about the dog, mess, etc.(I’m just as messy, fyi. I get frustrated when she nags about my mess… What is wrong with me?!?!) Walk and do tricks with the dog.
Good idea? I’ll let you know.